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(English) What It’s Really Like to Have Toddler Twins

星期三, 一月 30th, 2013 2:55 下午 | By Stephanie Woo

My husband is away on a business trip for 8 days. Our nanny recently went on a 6-week vacation. After three days of being alone with them, last night I had one of those I-hope-no-one-who-reads-my-blog-ever-sees-me-now kind of a moment. I’m in the middle of cleaning up after an elaborate, health-conscious, culturally-educational meal of braised sea bass, tofu with mushrooms and minced meat and a special rice dish with baby bok-choy, edamame and carrots. I’ve got dishes piled up to the ceiling in the sink, a table full of half-eaten food and wondering why I had gone through the trouble of cooking any of it. I’m trying to load the dishwasher as fast as possible, with B tugging at my pants saying, “Mama, don’t wash dishes,” It should have been a sign. Well, the girls decided to go into the rice cupboard, dump out 2 giant cups of uncooked rice on the floor then throw it at each other. “What are you doing? Stop! STOP! I knew I shouldn’t have kept this here where you can get to it!” I go upstairs to get the vacuum. When I come back, they had gotten into the flour and was smearing it all over the cupboard door. I grab their hands and pull them into the living room. “Stand here. And don’t move!” I’m absolutely fuming.

Hours later, I realized two things:
1. You cannot keep up a household the same way you did when you have a husband AND nanny.
2. Of the three most important people in B and M’s life, two of them are gone. And they are desperately trying to get my attention.

I’m still recovering from my burst of anger and ensuing exhaustion from cleaning, but I decided to have a conversation with them anyway. Communicating helps them understand what happened and helps me calm down. At bedtime, I held them and said, “Mama yelled very loudly today, didn’t I?” Nods all around. “Mama is very tired today, so when you threw rice everywhere, I got very angry. I’m sorry I yelled.” They don’t say anything. “When Daddy and Ayi are not here, I need you to help me keep the house clean. Can you help Mama keep the house clean these next few days?” It’s a lot to ask of a 2-year-old, but they nod.

This morning on our way to school, B says, “Brooke didn’t clean up.” I ask, “What didn’t you clean up?” She says, “Brooke didn’t clean up Play-doh.” “Do you want me to help you clean it up?” I ask. She says, “No. Brooke clean up Play-doh by herself.”

It took three days of exhaustion, misery and way too much yelling for me to learn this: No more elaborate meals. No more extensive cleaning. It is time to break out the disposable bowls and plates and do more take-out. They need time with me doing Play-doh, storytime and cuddles more than ever. The acting out is merely their way of getting my attention. I’m putting aside the idea of keeping the perfect home – I’m ready to get on with having the perfect time with them.

Well, I’ve found a great solution. I’ve replaced all bowls, plates and cups with the disposable kind. My goal is avoid washing dishes altogether before my husband comes home. And a couple days of take-out is going to be great for us.

(English) Video: “Figure It Out Yourself”

星期五, 一月 25th, 2013 9:59 上午 | By Stephanie Woo

当代艺术与幼儿的关係

星期三, 一月 16th, 2013 10:08 上午 | By Stephanie Woo
马蒂斯绘作舞者

马蒂斯绘作舞者 by

圣诞节时,我给两个女儿买了一套书籍,是上个月我去巴尔的摩美术馆时看见的,昨天开始在床边故事时间,我们阅读与马蒂斯有关的书,你可能在想24个月大的小孩对於马蒂斯有什麽反应,容我跟你分享。

我们就一边翻书一边谈谈我们看见的作品,其中一个名作便是舞者,Mackenzie首先发难说“光溜溜”,接著B就开始命名身体的各部位“脚”,“肚脐眼”,“屁股”。

然後M就站起来,开始摇动她的屁股,B跟著也跳起舞来,然後我就看见她们手牵著手,上下跳著,在床上跳了有五分钟。

她们的表现是那麽的自然,而且非常有逻辑,不就是应该这样反应吗?如果我们跟随自己最深刻的本能,我们也都会像她们这样吧!在美术馆的这幅舞者画作跟前就舞蹈起来!

以下这一套就是我们最近在阅读的书: