家長問答：地板床和嬰兒床的不一樣
星期四, 9月 1st, 2011 10:07 pm | By Stephanie Woo
問：讀了你的部落格之後，我也在考慮做個地板床給我的15個月大寶寶。可是，只是把他放在那裡，等到他睡覺就可以了嗎？因爲跟他的嬰兒床很不同，我怕他會睡不著。而且他已經會走路了。現在開始會不會有點太遲了呢？這個年齡把他轉睡到地上床墊上有什麽益處呢？
答：地板床是沒有“太遲”這回事的！您在考慮給他一個地板床是一件很好的事！在地板床睡覺當然會和在嬰兒床裡睡覺的感覺不一樣。一開始，因爲新奇，他會需要您在房裡陪伴著他，幫助他適應。您需要把房間設計成有睡覺的地方（放床墊的地方）和玩耍的地方，在玩耍的地方鋪一片特定的玩具地毯，把玩具都放在上面。這裡應該是他一起身就看得到的地方。另外就是絕對不可以讓他的玩具錯落在床上或地上。幫他們收拾的時候，請把玩具都放在玩具地毯上。您必須讓孩子知道房間裡的秩序：“睡覺的地方在這裡，起床玩玩具的地方在那裡！”
地板床最重要的益處就是給於孩子們的自由和選擇的餘地。什麽時候起床，什麽時候睡覺，都完全由他自己決定。嬰兒床和高椅等的問題是，它們使孩子覺得無助， 進進出出都得依賴大人的幫忙。然後，他們唯一能夠告訴您他們要出來的方式就是向您大聲哭。所以向您大聲哭其實是他們因爲感到無助而逐漸學習到的行爲。
把寶寶放在地上床墊的話，他們就不需要再向您大聲哭才可以做他們想要做的東西了。現在，決定權在於他們。通過這樣的自由，他會學習到自律。如果凡事都是由家 長幫孩子做決定的話，他的紀律都是從別人得到的，不算是真正的自律。如您所知，自律這種東西，孩子長大後會比較難學習，所以我非常鼓勵您從小就開始把這個 品質灌輸給孩子們。這也不會難到哪裡去。只要盡量讓他們自己選擇要怎麽去做他們要做的事情就行了！爲何不從讓他們選擇起床時間這個小小項目開始呢？
簡單方程式：更多自由=更少哭泣+更加自律的孩子！
So if 15 months isn't too late, when is a good time to start?
Hi Julie, a good time to start is when your baby is 2-3 months old. See this post for more information: https://montessorionthedouble.com/2011/09/03/the-basics-of-floor-bed/
I think that crib is a better choice, provided that it is durable. You can easily lift and put your baby to sleep in an elevated bed.
Oh how I wish I'd known more about Montessori and these methods before I had my twins. Even finding your blog sooner would have helped! My are already 27 months, but I read what yours are doing and it blows me away! Well done.
I have been trying to incorporate some of your ideas into our daily routine, but they are very resistant.
The crib thing is something I don't want to change! At this age, I think it will be so much chaos. In fact, I just blogged about it an hour before reading this post. When they were younger, I think it would've gone better, but now…I can't imagine the craziness. I'm very conflicted.
Pufferfish,
27 months is still very young! Maybe floor bed is not the way to go for them, but it really is about incorporating the ideas behind a floor bed into your life – giving them more independence, teaching them do more things for themselves, like putting on shoes, getting in and out of stroller, eating by themselves, choosing what to eat, etc. Letting them make certain choices that you can live with. Like giving them each two outfits in the morning and letting them choose which one they want to wear. A great book to consider reading is, "How to raise an amazing child the Montessori Way." I really like some of the recommendations they have for children in the 2-4 range. Let me know how things progress with you and your twins!
Best,
Stephanie