Hello Stephanie, I had trouble trying to figure out what to do in this situation. How should I approach this during group play-dates when my child starts getting upset or when the other child wants what she has?
星期二, 10月 23rd, 2012 10:32 pm | Debbie
Hi Debbie,
In my experience, if I do not know the child or mother, I wouldn't ask the child to share their toy with my children. However, if my child is playing with something and someone tries to take it out of her hands, I would try to prevent that. I would ask Brooke, "Is it okay if he plays with it after you're done?" And then get down to the other child's level and say, "She will give it to you when she is done, okay?" And then a couple minutes later, if the other child still seems to really want it, ask Brooke, "Are you done playing?" If she says no or doesn't respond, I would say, "Okay, I understand you're not done. When you are done, can she play with it?" And just wait, let your child decide when she wants to give it to the other child. It may be that she wants to play with that toy through the whole playdate, then respect that. When she clearly doesn't want it anymore, I would say, "Brooke, can he play with it now?" And I have seen this happen more often than not: Brooke will bring the toy over to the child. If this doesn't happen with your child, you can model for your child what it means by walking over and handing it to the child yourself. Your child is learning what it means to play with others, so you are the best model for what she should do!
星期四, 10月 25th, 2012 2:05 pm | Stephanie Woo
Thank you very much for this post! I was struggling in what to do about this sharing issue. Including the question Debbie asked and you brilliantly replyed.
Kisses from Brazil 😉
Hello Stephanie, I had trouble trying to figure out what to do in this situation. How should I approach this during group play-dates when my child starts getting upset or when the other child wants what she has?
Hi Debbie,
In my experience, if I do not know the child or mother, I wouldn't ask the child to share their toy with my children. However, if my child is playing with something and someone tries to take it out of her hands, I would try to prevent that. I would ask Brooke, "Is it okay if he plays with it after you're done?" And then get down to the other child's level and say, "She will give it to you when she is done, okay?" And then a couple minutes later, if the other child still seems to really want it, ask Brooke, "Are you done playing?" If she says no or doesn't respond, I would say, "Okay, I understand you're not done. When you are done, can she play with it?" And just wait, let your child decide when she wants to give it to the other child. It may be that she wants to play with that toy through the whole playdate, then respect that. When she clearly doesn't want it anymore, I would say, "Brooke, can he play with it now?" And I have seen this happen more often than not: Brooke will bring the toy over to the child. If this doesn't happen with your child, you can model for your child what it means by walking over and handing it to the child yourself. Your child is learning what it means to play with others, so you are the best model for what she should do!
Thank you very much for this post! I was struggling in what to do about this sharing issue. Including the question Debbie asked and you brilliantly replyed.
Kisses from Brazil 😉