情感疏通了，纠正才能发生
星期一, 十二月 3rd, 2012 10:24 am | By Stephanie Woo
5分钟的互动，让整个概念更清楚了：情感疏通了，纠正才能发生。
午後散步回到家里，Brooke脱掉她的外套，丢在地上，然後头也不回的就走掉了，我说“Brooke，请把你的外套收起来。”她还是走掉了，接著我就更大声并且坚定的跟她再说一次，她还是不回头，我把外套拿给她，抓住她的肩膀“Brooke，收掉外套。”她试著要脱逃。
然後，我想到了，我週末的时候不在家，而且比平常回家的时间还要晚。於是，我蹲下来问她“好，我可以抱抱你吗？”她看了我一眼点头表示“好”，所以我坐下来抱著她，我们都没有说话，我只是抱著她，摸摸她的头髮，而她就吸她的拇指（她到现在还是会吸手指）。我让她决定什麽时候停下来。过了叁分钟之後，她抬头看我，我说“亲爱的，你可以把外套放回去吗？”她站起来，找到外套的吊环，将她的外套掛回去，然後很开心的走开了。
我几乎每天都跟我的小孩一起在家，我觉得跟她们连结很好，但是我不知道她们觉得如何，於是，我了解到，当小孩以行为来表现情绪时，她们没有感受到连结，这就是我需要给她们多一点的时候。
Hi –
Love your blog. I have a 5yo daughter and 16mo twins and get lots of ideas for them from your blog. This post really caught my eye. Are you familiar with Bonnie Harris’ work? I think you’d like it. Connecting is huge!
Keep up the good work!
Hi Jill, I just ordered Bonnie Harris’ book – thank you for the recommendation. I can’t wait to get it!
Reminds me about a story about a cookie.
The boy comes home and asks for a cookie. The mother says, “How about a hug instead?”
The boy acquiesces. Gets the hug. Then says, “You’re right. I didn’t want a cookie, anyway.” And he goes on his way to play again.
Jason, Love that story! Thanks for sharing. And great to hear from you here!