情感疏通了,纠正才能发生

星期一, 十二月 3rd, 2012 10:24 am | By Stephanie Woo

5分钟的互动,让整个概念更清楚了:情感疏通了,纠正才能发生。

午後散步回到家里,Brooke脱掉她的外套,丢在地上,然後头也不回的就走掉了,我说“Brooke,请把你的外套收起来。”她还是走掉了,接著我就更大声并且坚定的跟她再说一次,她还是不回头,我把外套拿给她,抓住她的肩膀“Brooke,收掉外套。”她试著要脱逃。

然後,我想到了,我週末的时候不在家,而且比平常回家的时间还要晚。於是,我蹲下来问她“好,我可以抱抱你吗?”她看了我一眼点头表示“好”,所以我坐下来抱著她,我们都没有说话,我只是抱著她,摸摸她的头髮,而她就吸她的拇指(她到现在还是会吸手指)。我让她决定什麽时候停下来。过了叁分钟之後,她抬头看我,我说“亲爱的,你可以把外套放回去吗?”她站起来,找到外套的吊环,将她的外套掛回去,然後很开心的走开了。

我几乎每天都跟我的小孩一起在家,我觉得跟她们连结很好,但是我不知道她们觉得如何,於是,我了解到,当小孩以行为来表现情绪时,她们没有感受到连结,这就是我需要给她们多一点的时候。

Reader Comments (4)

  1. Hi –
    Love your blog. I have a 5yo daughter and 16mo twins and get lots of ideas for them from your blog. This post really caught my eye. Are you familiar with Bonnie Harris’ work? I think you’d like it. Connecting is huge!
    Keep up the good work!

    星期一, 十二月 3rd, 2012 7:55 pm | Jill
  2. Hi Jill, I just ordered Bonnie Harris’ book – thank you for the recommendation. I can’t wait to get it!

    星期二, 十二月 4th, 2012 11:10 am | Stephanie Woo
  3. Reminds me about a story about a cookie.

    The boy comes home and asks for a cookie. The mother says, “How about a hug instead?”

    The boy acquiesces. Gets the hug. Then says, “You’re right. I didn’t want a cookie, anyway.” And he goes on his way to play again.

    星期五, 十二月 7th, 2012 8:26 am | jason
    • Jason, Love that story! Thanks for sharing. And great to hear from you here!

      星期一, 十二月 10th, 2012 2:58 pm | Stephanie Woo

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