What We Did All Summer (of 2014)
Since I haven’t written for such a long time, I keep thinking that the first blog that comes out must be perfect. I’ve been waiting for perfect, but perfect never happens and, really, it’s the wrong way to look at it. So if this blog post rambles on, forgive me, I’m just gonna give it a go.
What a summer we’ve had!
This was the most upheaval we’ve gone through together as a family, and I wasn’t ready to write about it till we’ve come out the other end. Our friends and family went through all the ups and downs with us. We’re lucky they still love us after what we’ve put them through!
I last left off in June, when Mark and I both got our AMI certifications in Portland and were on our way to Taiwan. We spent two months there. Brooke and Mackenzie attended my mother’s school, Ms. Lam’s Montessori school, while Mark and I worked in the school. He taught soon-to-be first graders, while I observed and taught in both primary and toddler classrooms.
I grew up knowing that our family ran Montessori schools. But it didn’t mean much to me because I didn’t have kids and Montessori was just something Mom did. Now that I’ve been trained in two levels (0-3 and 3-6), I’ve taught at a few schools, observed at many other schools and been a parent with children who have attended a couple Montessori schools, I have a lot more experience evaluating schools. As strange as this may sound, I was completely surprised to discover for myself just how excellent my mom’s school is. Mark and I were so impressed, we even decided to forego our own egos and opt to continue what my mom started. What does that mean? We are going to open a Ms. Lam Montessori school here in the US.
We left Taiwan in August, where we continued the next part of our summer adventure in California. I’ve always thought I would love California – sunny, beautiful and the perfect place for a school. Well, dream and reality did not mesh this time. Because everything was new, it turned out to be extremely difficult for us to accomplish all we wanted to do. I was also pregnant when we arrived in California, and when I had a miscarriage – most likely due to the stress of the situation (more on this later) – I knew this was not the place for us. One month after we arrived, we decided our future is where we came from: back home in Brooklyn, NY.
We landed in New York in mid-September and moved back into our own building in Williamsburg. The second we arrived, we were immediately surrounded by friends and family – don’t know why we ever thought we belonged anywhere else. We immediately started working on opening our new school. There’s permits, handbooks, websites, classroom design. We’ve got a long to-do list!
Meanwhile, we did something radical. We decided to send Brooke and Mackenzie (3 years 10 months) to public school until our school opens. Why? The school is right next to our house; there were two open spots; it’s just for 2-3 months; we need to save every penny to renovate our school and buy the best materials for our future school. Sometimes logistics win.
I’ve had moments of doubt, but overall, public school has been an interesting experience. The most surprising thing is this: everyday, when they come home, they don’t want to go anywhere or do anything. Not even the park. They just want to stay home and work. They are totally concentrated and self-sufficient until dinnertime, which is about 3 hours. I don’t know what they do all day at school, but I think some part of them craves working independently.
Well, here we are, at the other end of our summer adventure and settled into our new – hopefully permanent – life and home. It feels FANTASTIC to be writing this blog from a home I can finally call my own.
I am so happy to read your blog again, Stephanie!
Thank you, Pat. I want to know how you are doing!
I’m so glad you had such a warm welcome when you came home:) NY is a fabulous place, more so with you guys there:) Sending very good wishes on the new school opening!
Hugs, Ingrid
Thank you, Ingrid! Hope you come to visit sometime soon 🙂
Now I’m really excited about observing a Montessori school. Hopefully will get a chance to observe a Chinese one as well! Sorry you had such a rough time. Love seeing the girls grow on your blog. Looking forward to seeing you in person in the near future!
Grace, are you back in Taiwan? Will you be observing there?
Dear Stephanie,
I am doing good, except I miss my husband, who is working in Santa Cruz right now. I did some observation hours at non montessori school in Park Slope with walking child but I will be observing Flat Iron Montessori school, which where my classmate is working. I am so exiting. I am so glad you are back in New York and hope that I will have an opportunity to meet you soon.
Pat
Me, too! When our school is closer to an open date, I’d love to invite you to come visit!
Coming to this late, but I wonder if you have suggestions (or could do a post) on helping your girls through so many place/school transitions. We’re looking at two school changes for my two year old this year, and I’m nervous about how to help keep her life stable while changing schools.
Margaret, That’s a great question. I think children adapt VERY QUICKLY. Much more quickly than we do. So firstly, trust in your child’s ability to adapt and let your worries go. I would make sure you are 100% happy with the school and where you are sending her. If you feel confident in the school, your child will feel confident. If you feel skeptical, your child will feel skeptical. I find, mostly, children love their teachers. No matter who they are. No matter how good or bad you think they are! So I think your state of mind will have the most impact on how roughly or smoothly the transition goes…